You'll Mourn the Death of Ego, but it's Worth it

A quick google search will pull up tons of "kill the ego" articles, tips and tricks. Sigmund Freud is credited with coining that term, but in his writings he never used it. He spoke of the "Ich" and the "Uber ich", or the "I" and "Super I". When his works were translated from German into English the Latin word for "I", Ego, was substituted. So, what does "killing the "I" mean? That sounds far more daunting...even frightening. If we kill our "I", what is left?

For me it the process wasn't initiated from a "6 Easy Ways to Destroy the Pesky Ego" type of source, but rather the pain of experiencing a divorce and the death of my mom, dad and stepdad in a 4 year period. Those things themselves didn't "kill the Ego/I", but rather beat down my defenses that had been protecting it so many years. Protecting and defending me living a life I didn't want. Not feeling safe to make my own choice. Not feeling safe to speak my truth. Not living on purpose. This painful experience I never would have asked for put me in a place where I could no longer fight to keep myself on a path I hadn't consciously chosen. It opened a door that I walked through that step by step lead me to make decisions that helped me build a happier more intentional life. There were long periods of time where death is what I felt, and sometimes still do. The ending of so many ways of living and ways of being that opened up experiences, relationships and opportunities wasn't without grief, but as I make my way through the new life I'm building I'm forever grateful for the lessons I learned, in spite of the pain that came with them. This experience and that things I learned from it are what I share in my book AfterLife, Waking up from my American Dream (Available on Amazon in January). I'm going to keep diving into different aspects of what I learned and keep learning in the months ahead. If you made it this far, thank you for reading my first Blog post.

Cheers,

Carlo